Under Construction

Photo by Juri Noga

Hi friends, I’m sorry for having gone radio silent over here for a few weeks. I’ve been taking a little holiday from writing.

It’s no secret that I struggle with depression and existing with a generally blue disposition lurking underneath my jokes and performative socializing. For ages, especially during quarantine, I was enjoying 2-3 cocktails a night to wind down and kind of “turn off” the day. About a month ago I woke up with a hangover headache and decided I was tired of feeling that way at my own hand. I’ve already got enough problems to manage, after all! So, I haven’t had a drink in about a month and have been enjoying the better sleep and giving my liver a well-deserved break.

I’ve also made daily commitments to reading a certain number of pages of books to meet my EOY reading goal I set back in January and to practicing yoga.

I’d been crawling my way through Dr. Bessel van der Kolk’s The Body Keeps the Score for months, but recently it became a fascinating snowball I couldn’t stop tumbling through. The book is religiously cited and backed by research from cutting edge medical professionals who trained in the best schools under the best doctors. This book should be required reading for anyone living. Seriously! It’s about how happenings in one’s life manifest in the physical body, and it is enlightening in a way I’ve never experienced. My psychiatrist agrees it is critical reading.

Because so much of it’s westernized, I was kind of surprised to find one of the chapters dedicated to the power of yoga and its healing qualities. So, in a commitment to heal my body and idealize my life with the cards I’ve been dealt, I’ve been trying to practice everyday to take myself out of my head to stretch and breathe. I’ve written about her a few times, but I adore Yoga with Adriene, a lovely person who posts free yoga videos on YouTube. She has a practice for every ailment and hobby ranging from 12-50 minutes. Highly recommend.

Anyway, I’ve been a bit focused on getting into my body as a way to access and maybe clean out my head. TBD on how it’s going, but it can’t hurt to read more, practice yoga, and drink less, right? So, I’m a bit “under construction.”

So is my website!

I’ve been working with a lovely, tenacious website designer Kiki & Co Creative to design a beautiful site for Bummed Out Bailey and I’ve been revisiting my content calendar to refresh my offerings here on the blog. I’ve got some new ideas, mostly making the content more robust and hopefully some things to make you laugh. It should be finished soon, and I’ll do a big relaunch that I hope you’ll all love as much as I do.

Thank you to all of you who so faithfully read my musings and support me in every way. I am so grateful. Until the relaunch, take care of you the best you can… and maybe stretch your hamstrings. The holidays can be stressful and take a toll, and I anticipate COVID holidays to be strange to say the least.

The other day I started typing into Google “will I ever get over my dead dog.” After I’d typed the first three words, “will I ever,” the rest auto-populated with some heartbreaking things.

“Will I ever find love?”

“Will I ever be happy?”

“Will I ever get married?”

It reminded me of how fragile we really are, no matter what kind of façade people present. Deep inside, so many people have these questions. This was a reminder to me to be gentle, patient, and kind. To dole out the benefit of the doubt generously. To acknowledge the inherent pain of the human condition and give people a break.

Be sure to give that grace to yourself, too.

Happy holidays, and I’ll see you again soon with a whole(!) new(!) style(!!!).

Warmest,
Bailey


More on Bummed Out Bailey:
Mental Health: Ho Ho HELP
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Recipe: Maple Pecan Sweet Potato Casserole (Gluten-Free + Vegan)


The best way you can support me is to share my blog with friends! Another way to support is on my Patreon where you’ll find exclusive content. I can also be found on InstagramFacebook, and Twitter. To subscribe to Bummed Out Bailey by email please complete the form below.

If you or someone you know needs help right now, please call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.


Postscript Golden Retriever

Mental Health: Bailey and Rick Talk at You: Episode 7

This week Rick and I discuss how I know a depressive episode is coming on, how I balance mental illness and big life events, and when mental illness was first introduced in our relationship. There’s also an unnecessarily expensive, carved mallard duck!

If for any reason the embed doesn’t work, you can watch the video here.

In the ep we talk about how you first present yourself and your mental illness or remarkable affliction, if applicable, in a new relationship. Something that has stayed with me for months is the third episode of Modern Love’s first season on Amazon Prime that stars Anne Hathaway. She does an incredibly moving job showing mental illness, and I cannot recommend enough that people watch that brief episode to have a better understanding or feel better understood. Both of those are invaluable.

Remember, if you have any questions you’d like us to address in Bailey and Rick Talk at You, feel free to reach out in the comments, on social media, or anonymously on the contact page.

Warmest,
Bailey

Featured Image Credit: Photo by DESIGNECOLOGIST on Unsplash


Wednesday posts cover something that’s top of mind for me that week and are written in a short period of time. This means that editing is not strong. While it’s not my best work, it is my best, unfiltered thought.


More on Bummed Out Bailey:

Mental Health: Bailey and Rick Talk at You: Episode 1
Mental Health: Bailey and Rick Talk at You: Episode 2
Mental Health: Bailey and Rick Talk at You: Episode 3


Do you love Bummed Out Bailey? Want to help keep it going? The best way you can support me is to share my blog with friends! Another way to support is on my Patreon where you’ll find exclusive content. Your word of mouth and contribution mean more to me than you’ll ever know!

To subscribe to Bummed Out Bailey by email, scroll all the way down to the bottom of the website and enter your info into the form. I can also be found on InstagramFacebook, and Twitter.

If you or someone you know needs help right now, please call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

Mental Health: Bailey and Rick Talk at You: Episode 6

This week Rick and I answer some questions about how the quarantine has affected our mental wellness, new ways to cope, and Rick’s application to the local music conservatory.

If for any reason the embed doesn’t work, you can watch the video here.

Remember, if you have any questions you’d like us to address in Bailey and Rick Talk at You, feel free to reach out in the comments, on social media, or anonymously on the contact page.

Warmest,
Bailey


Wednesday posts cover something that’s top of mind for me that week and are written in a short period of time. This means that editing is not strong. While it’s not my best work, it is my best, unfiltered thought.


More on Bummed Out Bailey:

Mental Health: Bailey and Rick Talk at You: Episode 3
Mental Health: Bailey and Rick Talk at You: Episode 4
Mental Health: Bailey and Rick Talk at You: Episode 5


Do you love Bummed Out Bailey? Want to help keep it going? The best way you can support me is to share my blog with friends! Another way to support is on my Patreon where you’ll find exclusive content. Your word of mouth and contribution mean more to me than you’ll ever know!

To subscribe to Bummed Out Bailey by email, scroll all the way down to the bottom of the website and enter your info into the form. I can also be found on InstagramFacebook, and Twitter.

If you or someone you know needs help right now, please call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

Mental Health: Bailey and Rick Talk at You: Episode 5

This week Rick and I answer some questions about how we handle me having an anxiety attack in public and whether Rick has ever experienced mental illness, himself. There’s also mention of haunted lightbulbs!

If for any reason the embed doesn’t work, you can watch the video here.

In the video we talk about how we handle situations in public regarding my anxiety, and I thought of another example of me removing myself from a situation where it was appropriate for Rick to stay. A few years ago my parents celebrated their 40th anniversary at a dinner in Florida and I started wiggin’. So, Rick stayed in the restaurant to celebrate and I went and laid in the back of the 15 pass my parents had rented for the trip in the parking lot. Lol.

Remember, if you have any questions you’d like us to address in Bailey and Rick Talk at You, feel free to reach out in the comments, on social media, or anonymously on the contact page.

Warmest,
Bailey


Wednesday posts cover something that’s top of mind for me that week and are written in a short period of time. This means that editing is not strong. While it’s not my best work, it is my best, unfiltered thought.


More on Bummed Out Bailey:

Mental Health: Bailey and Rick Talk at You: Episode 2
Mental Health: Bailey and Rick Talk at You: Episode 3
Mental Health: Bailey and Rick Talk at You: Episode 4


Do you love Bummed Out Bailey? Want to help keep it going? The best way you can support me is to share my blog with friends! Another way to support is on my Patreon where you’ll find exclusive content. Your word of mouth and contribution mean more to me than you’ll ever know!

To subscribe to Bummed Out Bailey by email, scroll all the way down to the bottom of the website and enter your info into the form. I can also be found on InstagramFacebook, and Twitter.

If you or someone you know needs help right now, please call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

Mental Health: Bailey and Rick Talk at You: Episode 4

Looks like we made it * Shania voice * I’ve turned in my thesis, and turned into… a vlogger!

This week Rick and I answer some questions about how I presented/how Rick perceived my mental illness while we were dating. There’s also mention of Jerry Springer’s hit show “Baggage!”

Unfortunately the sound is a little wonky, but we’ll try to do better next week! Remember, we have no idea what we’re doing.

If for any reason the embed doesn’t work, you can watch the video here.

Remember, if you have any questions you’d like us to address in Bailey and Rick Talk at You, feel free to reach out in the comments, on social media, or anonymously on the contact page.

Warmest,
Bailey

P.S. The post I mention about this past summer is here.


Wednesday posts cover something that’s top of mind for me that week and are written in a short period of time. This means that editing is not strong. While it’s not my best work, it is my best, unfiltered thought.


More on Bummed Out Bailey:

Mental Health: Bailey and Rick Talk at You: Episode 1
Mental Health: Bailey and Rick Talk at You: Episode 2
Mental Health: Bailey and Rick Talk at You: Episode 3


Do you love Bummed Out Bailey? Want to help keep it going? The best way you can support me is to share my blog with friends! Another way to support is on my Patreon where you’ll find exclusive content. Your word of mouth and contribution mean more to me than you’ll ever know!

To subscribe to Bummed Out Bailey by email, scroll all the way down to the bottom of the website and enter your info into the form. I can also be found on InstagramFacebook, and Twitter.

If you or someone you know needs help right now, please call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.